a friend of mine just recently broke up with her boyfriend. and yes in times like these, life tends to get very emtional in so many different levels, where we just want to cry our heart out because we just lost the love of our life. and where we just bound to lose control of everything that is happening around us and not a care in the world or the feeling the world dont care about us.

i really didnt quite know how to approach this situation because with me it was vice versa. so i didnt know how my friend really felt. so i prayed.

in our conversation. i knew by the tone of her voice that it was going to be very difficult for her to let go. even though this happened countless times already… it was one of those off and on relationship… i knew she really love this particular man and that she saw a future with him. and him breaking it off tore her heart and dreams apart.

i told her to just be there for him as a friend and to pray for him. because we never could really know what a person is going through completly no matter how much they express themselves. for we are not them. we dont follow them each step they go through their entire life. we just show up here and there. and there might be so much more than what it seems to be because there might be things their not quite fully comfortable expressing. everyone has secrets that they themselves only know. and we cant and shouldnt force them to say it to us if they’re mos def not comfortable saying it. encourage dont discourage.

we need to help them get through it not add more problems to the situation.

she was scared that “what if” all the time shes waiting for him to come back especially you’ve given him all the time and comfort he needs as a friend and he still doesnt come back. that all the love she gave to him was a waste. she was scared that she loved him more than he loved her. but i told her love is not a competition. when it comes to love it doesnt matter who love who more. for love is something we should share. not compete. like what sister mary have said to me, “there is one thing that every person wants more than money and power… is to be loved. the only problem is, its just people dont know how to give it.” for god said to the world love one another. and honestly many people have forgetten that commandment. especially it is one of the most important commandment of all and that can and will defeat anything. i told her to live her life and dont wait for him if it was ment to be then he will come back. and if you think this man is the man of your dreams that his so perfect in every way for you. but then he still ends up not being the one then it just means that there’s someone even better for you out there, someone better than him. dont seek for love let love find you. be patience. for love is patience.

theres a story of a man who had so much faith in god and loved him dearly. and one day god ask this man, ” are you willing to die for me today?”

the man answered, “no”

god was struck from his answer and ask this man “how come dont you love me and have faith in me?”

the man replied ” of course heavenly father i have so much faith in you and i love you dearly with all my heart. and willingly to do anything for you. but the thing is my god. there is still people out there that needs to be loved. and there’s still people that needs to know the love of god. the love you have given me. and i want to share it to the world.”

love can conquer all. but we must cherish it and use it wisely and dont abuse it. for love is also precious.

in some relationships we sometimes get scared to use the word love. we’re scared that when we finally truly feel it and say it to our love one. that it may not be returned. or said back at that moment or even in some cases never. but dont be scared to express how you truly feel about someone. even though they may not say it back. at least you’ve gotten to know how it felt to love. and for the other person at least they gotten to know how it felt to be loved. and one day they’ll learn how to give love. through you and god. showing them how loving someone is the greatest thing anyone can give. they’ll see it. and sooner or later they want to share it back to the world.